For me, doing and trying my best is an (ideally) 365 days a year thing. I’m not a huge fan of New Year’s Resolutions, but I am a fan of making steps for YOU whenever you can. Whether that’s a new year, month, or week, if it encourages you to do better, go for it.
As we first started Seeing 20:20 by 2020, we walked through improving our Self, Relationships, and Communities one month at a time. I’ve started some small steps that have already made a HUGE impact in getting myself on the right track.
Without further ado, I give you my Top 10 Habits to Start Kicking Life’s Ass:
Clean up social media - Let’s be clear: I’m a huge fan of social media. Yes, it has its downfalls. But it can be a powerful, fun, inspirational tool IF that’s how you choose to use it. Every six months or so, I clean up my social media. I look at who I’m friends with/following, who gets on my damn nerves, the good, the bad, and everything in between. The ‘unfollow’ or ‘unfriend’ buttons become my new best friends and I get a clean slate. I follow less influencers and more artists or things that make me happy. I evaluate the pictures and posts I make to see if my feed is authentic or if I’m trying to be something I’m not. It’s a small step, but powerful.
Budget - Money makes the world go round. It shouldn’t…. but it does. For years, so much of my stress and anxiety boiled down to money worries. I’m a huge spender and it has gotten me into trouble over the years. For the past few years, we’ve been much more intentional with our money. We still spend way too much on eating out and other impulse buys, but overall we’ve made great progress. Not only has it allowed us to reach some of our bigger financial goals, it has made our day-to-day so much better. If you’re not tracking your spending - track it. If you don’t know how much debt you have - find out. If you’re not budgeting - start. It’s painful at first, but it helps.
Journal - Whether you write a narrative type journal detailing your day, track your accomplishments or goals on a sticky note, or use the Live with Moxie journal, take time everyday to journal. The days I wake up and complete my entry first thing in the morning are the days I feel my best.
Phone in another room - Probably the most powerful thing I’ve been doing lately… I don’t keep my phone on my nightstand anymore. It’s gets plugged in for the night in my home office right across the hall. I use my ‘real’ alarm clock to wake up in the mornings. This has helped me with two things: 1.) my phone and social media are NOT the last or first things I see every day. 2.) using my stupidly loud alarm that’s across my bedroom helps me wake up an hour early for some ‘me’ time to start my days off right. PUT YOUR PHONE IN THE OTHER ROOM. It will be okay.
Notes of gratitude or appreciation - At least once a week, write someone a note of gratitude or appreciation. Maybe it’s to your partner or spouse. Or maybe it’s a thank you to someone you had a meeting with, your child’s teacher, a helpful friend or coworker… whoever it is, pick someone every week and write them a quick note. It will make you (and them) feel great.
Quit taking shortcuts - do the work. If you want to lose weight - eat right, exercise, and drink water. If you want to be debt free - set financial boundaries. If you want a happy marriage - create a happy marriage. Every single time I want something, I figure out the steps I need to take to get there. Every SINGLE time I try to take a shortcut, I fail. It’s so easy to try and find the loophole. But for me… it’s never worked out. Quit taking shortcuts - do the work and make it happen.
Volunteer - Use your most valuable asset (your time) to serve others. There’s nothing like it.
Read - If reading is boring, you’re doing it wrong. Turn off the TV, put away the social media, and read. Check out my Goodreads to see all the goodies I’ve been devouring lately.
Create - Everyone, EVERYONE, needs some type of creative outlet. Whether it’s drawing or painting, woodwork, playing music, writing, crafting… the act of creating is a great way to express yourself and take a break from the more mundane day-to-day tasks you have to do.
Embrace the Suck - My co-workers have been hearing me say this for months as it’s my new mantra. EMBRACE the suck. At some point, life is going to suck. You’ll suck at your job, at being a good spouse, friend, family member… you’ll mess something up, something won’t go the way you need it to, you’ll say/do the wrong thing… there’s no avoiding it. So embrace it. When it comes, acknowledge it, address it, and let it go. Embrace the suck, my friends and it won’t throw you for a loop when it inevitably comes.
Life is a beautiful, complicated, messy (and sometimes sucky) work-in-progress. No part of me believes that we wake-up wanting to be anything less than the best we can possibly be. But navigating our day to day is the tricky part and why we need all the good habits and tools we can possibly get our hands on to do it successfully. Cut yourself some slack! We’re all taking it one day at a time. Choose to Live with Moxie today...