Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ideal body shape. Unfortunately, only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by Americans in the media.
That means, if I line up 10 of the most beautiful women I can think of, 9 of them will be unhappy with the way they look.
Everywhere I look, I see beautiful, tan women with long curly hair, thick eyelashes, toned bodies, the perfect clothes, and pearly white teeth. Well… if I’m scrolling through social media or watching TV that’s what I see.
If I look at the people around me, I see an entirely different picture. I see women with all heights and body types. I see a variety of clothing, hair every color of the rainbow, tattoos, accessories, and a million other things that make each person their own individual brand of beautiful.
In fact, that’s what I’m looking at most of the time. Real, actual people with real, actual flaws. Yet, those aren’t the people I compare myself to most of the time. Why is that? And why do I give a damn?
We all want to feel beautiful. We all want to think positive thoughts every time we look in the mirror.
Instead, we pick apart our imperfections and use them as reasons why we don’t measure up. Our stomachs aren’t flat. We have scars and uneven skin tones. We can’t even take a simple selfie without applying a filter.
I’m guilty as everyone else.
I look in the mirror and see the flabby stomach, weird nose, acne scars, surgical scars, pale skin, and 50 other little things I’d change if I could. There isn't a day that goes by that I don’t look at my hands or feet with resentment. I see the missing fingers and toes and wonder why I had to be that much different than everyone else. I do what I can to never show them in pictures.
The bottom line is we all struggle with our appearance. There are things we love, things we hate, and things we compare to other people. But Seeing 20:20 by 2020 and Living with Moxie means being intentional with how we treat and love our bodies. Not just the physical act of taking care of our bodies with exercise and a healthy diet, but the mental act of looking at ourselves and loving us for who we are. The physical stuff is a piece-of-cake compared to that… I can workout for an hour no problem. But changing my default from always looking at flaws to being confident? That’s a hell of a lot more work. But hey! I’m willing to try.